How to Resign with Grace!

Posted On 10 Nov 2021

How to Resign with Grace!

10 Nov 2021
How to Resign with Grace!

Candidate Resource, Employer Resource, EST10 Team, News & Events

How to Resign with Grace!

We’ve all had bosses we didn’t like and wanted to tell them where to stick it. You dream, just once, of telling your boss what you really feel. And there it is… your resignation. The perfect timing! Well, think again. Just like the company Christmas party is a no-go zone to express your true thoughts and opinions, so too is your resignation. It may seem like a great idea at the time, but it comes with negative consequences.

No matter how much they might deserve it, telling your boss ‘to stick it’, is a career derailer. You will be left carrying the burden of that impetuous moment forever. You can also forget about future references. As a recruiter, I know good references are your golden ticket! I also know that off the record references occur often. So, do not be naïve, thinking you won’t need ‘that reference’. It may happen without you knowing it!

Instead, resign with grace. It could be your best and smartest career move yet. We all know that first impressions count, well so do ‘last impressions’. Resigning with grace is not always easy to do, but it is worth every effort.

Here are some tips I know to make a difference:

• Rediscover your gratitude. Dig deep and recall how you felt when you first started your job. Consider the positive experiences and benefits received; friendships, training and development, knowledge and experience acquired. This will help you have the right frame of mind to resign and work out your notice period with grace. Being grateful balances any angst you may feel towards your job and helps with a dignified and memorable, for the right reasons, exit!

• Once you are certain, don’t delay your resignation and don’t share it with anyone else at work. Procrastination when resigning is normal, and so is the desire to share. Your boss will appreciate as much notice as possible and confidential news like this is never contained. It always has a way of leaking out. It isn’t professional and puts you and the other person in an uncomfortable and compromised position. Bite the bullet and tell your boss first.

• Pick the right time. To receive full attention and the proper response, book an appointment with your boss. Sending a resignation via email with no precursor lacks consideration, even in our current time of remote working. No one likes to ‘break up’ this way!

• Write a thoughtful, not cursory resignation. Thank your boss for the opportunity and for what you have learnt. Even include some of the learnings for authenticity. Give the correct amount of notice, in accordance with your contract and don’t try to skim on this.

• Provide a fabulous handover. Consider writing notes with tips and offer to be contacted afterwards. Also, be 100% aware and conscious not to be passive-aggressive or to speak disparagingly about your boss or job–it will get back. It always does!

• It is estimated the average work tenure in Australia is 3 years and 4 months. With this in mind, you will leave your job multiple times during your life, so be wise and master how to break up with your boss/organisation gracefully and sensibly. Properly managing these situations will strengthen your work relationships and assure future employability.

• You never know what opportunities are around the corner. Have the door left wide open to be welcomed back. In addition, as you change jobs, so do your bosses and colleagues. It is not unusual in certain industries to find yourself working together again.

When it comes time to resign, your reputation is worth more than a few weeks of lacklustre performance or impulsive action. Be committed, dedicated and always employable. You owe it to yourself!

“I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate.” ― George Burns

About the author
Roxanne Calder
Managing Director

As Founder and Managing Director at EST10, Roxanne has an all-encompassing role that includes building and growing the business, as well as actively recruiting and consulting.

After completing a Bachelor’s Degree at Monash University, Roxanne began her recruitment career with renowned recruiter Julia Ross. From there, Roxanne worked in HR and recruitment with a number of global players and boutique businesses throughout Australia, the UK, Singapore and Hong Kong for over 20 years. She has been responsible for managing large teams and projects, implementing RPO models, managing and assisting businesses to an IPO and assisting companies in setting up their recruitment teams and processes.

Following completion of her MBA at the Australian Graduate School of Management, Roxanne launched EST10 in July 2010. In doing so, she hoped to combine the flexibility and high touch service levels of boutique agencies with the structure and strategy afforded to larger firms. Roxanne believes in high-touch, high-care consulting and is always on the lookout for consultants that share this vision of recruitment.